Online Therapy in California for Anxiety, Trauma & Relationship IssuesYou’re Done with Surface-Level Coping. I’m Here to Heal the Root Issues
You're Not Alone in ThisThis Isn’t Traditional Therapy. And That Matters
You're looking to get to the root of the problem and achieve real change.
You’re Here Because
You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Maybe you've even been to therapy before. You're successful in many areas of your life, but when it comes to relationships, boundaries, and anxiety, you feel stuck in the same painful cycle.
Imagine if...
You trusted yourself.
You stopped apologizing for taking up space.
You could set boundaries without guilt.
Your relationships felt safe instead of exhausting.
You no longer carried the weight of your childhood into every new relationship.
Real change is possible - And you don't have to figure it out alone.
Many of the people I work with come to me after trying other approaches that didn’t quite get to the root of what they were experiencing. They may have spent years in therapy, done deep self-healing work, or been referred by a trusted therapist or doctor. If that resonates with you, please know you’re not alone, and there are still options.
You deserve real relief, and I’m here to help you find it.
meet your therapist
I help clients stop repeating the same patterns.
Hi, I’m Esma, an integrative therapist. My clients are thoughtful, capable people who are tired of surface-level solutions. They don't want someone to simply listen and nod. They want a therapist who can help them understand what's driving their patterns, and more importantly, help them create lasting change.
My approach is both direct, and nurturing. I won’t shy away from difficult conversations. I’ll help you get beneath the surface and start making real changes. You’ll feel supported and challenged with care and compassion. I believe both are necessary for growth.
My specialtiesI help clients change patterns that keep them stuck.
Breaking Relational Patterns
People-Pleasing
Over-Functioning
Difficulty Setting Boundaries
Codependency
Love Addiction
Limerence
Complex Trauma & Childhood Wounds
Complex Trauma (C-PTSD)
Parentification
Enmeshment
Developmental Trauma
Emotional Neglect
Anxiety & Nervous System Healing
High-Functioning Anxiety
Health Anxiety
Relationship Anxiety
Chronic Overthinking
Hypervigilance
Nervous System Dysregulation
Unhealthy Relationships
Trauma Bonds
Fear of Intimacy & Fear of Being Alone
Situationships
Chronic Infidelity Patterns
Communication & Conflict
Dysfunctional Family Systems
Emotional Manipulation
Guilt-Tripping
Family Estrangement
Family Roles
Intergenerational Patterns
Breaking Generational Cycles
Attachment Healing
Anxious Attachment
Avoidant Attachment
Disorganized Attachment
Repeating Unhealthy Relationship Cycles
Childhood Wounds
Inner Child Healing
Mother Wounds & Mother Hunger
Father Wounds
Secure Love
Healing from Toxic Relationships
Moving On After a Breakup
Opening Up to Healthy Love
this is a place for youWhere Healing Feels Human
I believe therapy should do more than help you understand yourself. It should help you create real change.
That's why I don't follow a one-size-fits-all approach. I draw from Brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic therapy, and other evidence-based approaches, choosing what best fits you and what you're needing in the moment.
Sometimes healing happens through conversation. Sometimes it happens by listening to your body. Sometimes it means getting to know the parts of you that have been carrying pain, fear, or responsibility for a long time. We'll follow what feels most important, one step at a time.
Therapeutic ModalitiesAn Integrative Approach
I don't use just one approach. I pull from multiple evidence-based modalities based on what the moment calls for.
Brainspotting
A powerful, brain-body approach that accesses unprocessed trauma and emotional material by using your visual field to locate and process "brainspots" — points where the body holds activation. It bypasses the thinking brain to access what talk therapy often can't reach
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
ACT helps build psychological flexibility and move toward values-based living rather than fear-driven or reactive patterns.
Internal Family Systems
IFS works with the “parts” of you. The protector who people pleases, the inner critic who won’t shut up, the exile carrying old pain. We get to know them, understand their role and update them to the present.
CBT and DBT
Evidence-based frameworks that build concrete skills — identifying thought patterns, developing distress tolerance. I draw on these as needed, woven into the deeper relational work.
Somatic Therapy
Your body keeps the score. Somatic work means paying attention to what your nervous system is doing — the tightness, the numbness, the activation — and using that information as a doorway into deeper processing.
Relational Self-Awareness (RSA)
RSA helps you understand how attachment patterns, family systems, relational histories, and unconscious beliefs influence your relationships. This work supports greater accountability, differentiation, emotional intimacy, and self-awareness.
Services
Root-level healing for people who are ready to stop repeating the same patterns.
resourcesPractical Insights For Deeper Healing
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