Couples TherapyIntegrative, trauma-informed couples therapy for California residents.
Every relationship has its own history, dynamics, and emotional language. I tailor the work to the couple in front of me — grounded in relational, evidence-based, body-aware practice.
What this work buildsI help couples learn to:
Respond rather than react
Recognize triggers earlier
Increase emotional regulation
Feel more grounded during conflict
Develop greater safety, presence, and connection
Common Areas of WorkI help couples navigate and resolve:
You don't have to wait for things to fall apart. Most of what couples bring is one of these — often two or three layered together.
Communication problems
Constant arguing
Feeling unheard or misunderstood
Avoidance or emotional shutdown
Infidelity and broken trust
Affairs (physical or emotional)
Lying or betrayal
Rebuilding trust after deception
Differences in values or future goals
Whether to get married
Whether to have children
Religion, lifestyle differences, career priorities
Where to live
Long-term compatibility concerns
Jealousy and insecurity
Attachment anxiety
Fear of abandonment
Social-media-related jealousy
Boundary problems with friends or ex-partners
Emotional disconnection
Feeling like "roommates"
Loss of intimacy or affection
Loneliness inside the relationship
Feeling emotionally neglected
Sexual issues
Mismatched libido
Lack of sexual satisfaction
Avoidance of sex
Sexual incompatibility
Family or in-law conflict
Overinvolvement from parents
Loyalty conflicts
Cultural expectations
Extended-family pressure
Recovering from repeated unresolved conflict
"We keep having the same fight"
Cycles of resentment
Accumulated hurt over years
“My therapeutic approach is one of wholeness. Rather than finding temporary relief of symptoms, I help clients find lasting growth and healing.”
meet your couples therapist
I'm caring and straightforward.
Couples appreciate that I’m both caring and direct. I’m not cold or overly clinical, and I won’t sugarcoat things or avoid difficult conversations. I help couples get underneath the surface and start making real changes.
Therapeutic ModalitiesOne integrative approach, six tools.
Different moments in therapy call for different tools. I weave these approaches responsively, based on what's emerging in the room between the two of you.
Relational Self-Awareness (RSA)
RSA helps couples understand how attachment patterns, family systems, relational histories, and unconscious beliefs influence the relationship. This work supports greater accountability, differentiation, emotional intimacy, and self-awareness.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
ACT helps couples build psychological flexibility and move toward values-based connection rather than fear-driven or reactive patterns. This work supports emotional presence, acceptance, and intentional action within the relationship.
Somatic Therapy
Relationships are experienced not only emotionally and cognitively, but physically. Somatic therapy helps couples recognize how stress, trauma, and emotional activation live within the nervous system and body.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
CBT helps identify thought patterns and beliefs that contribute to conflict, shame, defensiveness, or emotional distancing. Couples develop practical tools for communication, emotional awareness, and behavioral change.
Brainspotting
Trauma and emotional pain are often stored deeply within the brain and body. Brainspotting is a focused brain-body therapy that helps process unresolved experiences contributing to emotional reactivity, shutdown, anxiety, or relational distress.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
DBT-informed skills support emotional regulation, mindfulness, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness — particularly for couples navigating high emotional intensity, trauma responses, or chronic conflict cycles.
benefits of couples therapyWhat couples therapy makes possible.
Relationships can activate our deepest fears, vulnerabilities, attachment wounds, and longings for connection. Many couples find themselves repeating painful cycles despite genuinely wanting closeness and understanding.
Together, we work to identify the underlying dynamics driving relational distress while developing practical and embodied tools for change. Healing in relationships does not come through perfection. It happens through awareness, repair, vulnerability, emotional safety, and intentional practice.
Over time, couples often:
Understand the deeper emotional and relational roots of conflict
Explore how trauma and nervous-system responses impact connection
Increase emotional regulation and self-awareness
Learn healthier communication and repair strategies
Build trust, safety, intimacy, and resilience
Create more secure and intentional patterns of relating
The Practical DetailsWhat to Expect
Couples Therapy - 45 minute sessionsWeekly ($345/ session)
Best for couples who want consistent momentum and ongoing support.
Every Other Week ($345/ session)
Some couples prefer a bi-weekly rhythm that allows time for integration while making therapy more financially manageable.
As-Needed Sessions ($345/ session)
Couples may also schedule sessions only when support is needed, typically ranging from 0–3 sessions per month. This option works well for couples who want professional support available without committing to a weekly schedule.
insuranceMost clients with out-of-network benefits get 60–80% reimbursed.
I'm an out-of-network provider. Mentaya automatically submits claims to your insurance after each session, so you don't have to deal with paperwork or submit anything yourself.
Please select "couples service" when getting your estimate.
a different PaceWhen weekly therapy doesn't fit.
Some couples want to do focused work in a concentrated format rather than across months of weekly sessions. Brainspotting Intensives are three-hour in-person sessions in San Francisco or West LA, at a pace that respects your nervous system.
From the blogThoughts on Therapy & Healing
Take the First StepWhen You’re Ready to Begin
If you're ready for therapy that meets you where you are, let's talk.